Like we will be having a nice time and something sets him off and he just spirals. I think the common thread here is, we are attaching ourselves to emotionally unavailable men. Also i didnt know if i could put this but yes I did give myself to him and it was my first time part of me regrets it and part of me doesnt but I promise it was legal but yeah. I had stated in the beginning of the relationship I wanted marriage. He reminds me often how he is in charge and makes me pay the price for his past decisions by living in a place he cannot afford alone, even though when he asked me to move here he never expected me to pay half because I dont make alot of money. We are ok, but I still do everything, I cook everything, he never cooks for me, I clean, washing, I get the shopping, he wont even take the bins out when I ask, because of my approach apparently. He said he was torn and worried about Coronavirus. It helped me calm down. Lives like a pig in his own house. its been 10 days now and he havent ask me out, during these 10 days when he says i miss you or i say i miss, he would ask me to meet at his place for couple of hours (again at the spare of the moment). Hi Looloo, My partner is the same. He is quite affectionate and does make sure the bills are paid etc. Everything has started crumbling over the last few months. Theres no dignity or respect in how youre being treated. He didnt even make an effort to see me or plan anything the week before he went out of town. Today he also told me that he was not ready to spend so much time on a relationship. I double-majored in physics and mathematics and was sooooo constantly busy and very emotionally abused at the time in my relationship. i dont know what i should do since i know that he has feelings for me but i feel like he treats me like a friend a lot of the time. And so its for the most part become an issue I think between us. How you approach your boyfriend depends on his personality, your style of communication, and your relationship. So, I believe I know him very well. I just cant understand or relate to his lack of effort anymore. But after reading the article I realize that Ive just been complaining but I have never taken out the time to ask him, what a healthy happy relationship looks like to him, what his definition of effort is, or what kind of life does he want us to live, with me planning everything for us or what he wants. , hopefully each day, I will start to become stronger, and maybe me and him could continue with our friendship as time passes. I dont think what Im asking for is difficult to do that it would take months to see any results. Like, if they arent happy anymore, why not tell us so we can move on? He has weak immune systems and get sick often so we do have days without communication.Im completely okay with not talking everyday. Maybe he doesnt want to look like a fool. for example, yesterday, he gave me a box of chocolates only because his mom made him and i usually have to make the first moves, even if its something simple as reaching out to hold hands. "It was hard taking the constant rejection." He doesnt think. Soon realizing i wasnt going to come back to where i met him i tried to break it off. Weve knwon each other since high school because my bestfriend has relationship with him. For now, this venting helped me a bit. I worked until 11 pm and he worked until 7 and this morning I even brought everything out ingredients wise for him to FOR ONCE make me dinner because I was getting home SO late and SO exhausted. If you have never met in person then its more than enough reason to break up with him. The crazy thing about all this is that even tho Im the one craving attention and love and effort in the relationship, he actually relies on me a lot. She bought it but ofc Im a bad liar. He compromised but I guess his old self is back .Ive not heard from him today as well.I would understand if he was unwell,Id appreciate it if he could atleast send me even a short message so I wouldnt get so worried. Its exhausting when you are the one doing the heavy lifting. thank you so much for posting this article since i really need clarity for my mind . I have asked him to write more often if we do not physically meet so often, but I dont want to keep pushing him for more attention. Both Christmases weve been together hes given me money with the excuse that he doesnt have time to shop. So thats why he wasnt there and because his board broke. He works a lot sometimes so I understand he is tired, but he always wants me to come over his house. Since then hes filed for bankruptcy and the interest he used to take in my poetry appears to have disappeared. ?pretty much hurts and also my first. Now he doesnt do any of those, and I miss how it was before. to think I was already 32 years old still got fooled by a man. Carve out time for conversation, get in tune with their needs, stop avoiding difficult chats, empathize with what they say, and listen to how they say it. Its up and down. Because he needs time for himself and his past time projects, which is understandable as he is more introverted. so I do have to take that into account, and when his parents go away for the summer its wayyyy easier to spend more time with him, he becomes so laid back. We were fine for the first 6 months, then with this virus we havent been able to see each other. He replied: about what? Right now I feel like Im an inconvenience to him. Also be prepared to lose him. ? line and starts listing all the nice things he did recently. Whats the good of having money and a nice house if you dont enjoy your life!??? Monday rolls around, nothing. We just celebrated our 9 months of being together last Sept. Find a low-key, nonthreatening way to approach him. Anyway not sure what to do either but it helps to know Im not the only one. But for him, anniversaries are pointless. 7 Signs You Can Trust Your Boyfriend After He Cheated, 7 Ways to Convince Your Ex to Give You a Second Chance, When the Man You Love is Marrying Someone Else, When Your Ex Starts a New Relationship: 3 Ways Through the Pain, 7 Signs You Arent Ready for a Relationship, Emotionally Detaching From Someone You Love. Has financial debt, related to college expenses. But now everything is so plain and horrible. I say I never give advice, but this is one thing I want you to know: you have to build a life outside your relationship with your boyfriend. Girl what? Although weve talked about it many times and although I told him I wanted to go out once a month, he doesnt initiate. i cried a lot i asked myself will i love him back after knowing everything. I have no family and feel really lonely. I know that probably sounds silly but his replies are shorter and he doesnt joke around with me like he used to do. I am really sad about it, because I know we love each other, but this relationship as it is doesnt satisfy me. But I just feel unwanted and that all I do for him is in vain. Another thing that bothers me is he will ask me about my day or some other question, then when I answer, he switches the subject back to himself. And when I ask him what hes been doing that he cant call me, he gives me horrible excuses. 1. Its also about giving a relationship the time but in the reality im not. But he want to intimate with me. He says he loves me but he just doesnt act like it. He barely showers and Im afraid he barely feeds my son when Im away at work. Please help me , I have the same situation weve been dating for a year and 3 months and its the exact same way idky doe . He knows Im upset yet does nothing to help me when all I want is a hug. We do not even live together and he puts no effort, and I think throughout the years it would get worse if we get married, or live together. I always drive to his and he never makes an effort to go to me. I just dont understand why he refuses to accept how I feel. Perhaps he wasnt taught how to love a woman, and he hasnt taken time to learn what goes into a happy, healthy relationship. You may have to loosen your attachment and allow your boyfriend to withdraw or even leave. i think if i knew he wasnt capable of doing these things i wouldnt feel so strongly. And I get it, hes never been through the same things but I expect that. Right now hes not even talking to me. I felt once again unappreciated. WORKS BUT DOES NOTHING ELSE. It wasnt any thing bad. He needs help but isnt able to take responsibility or accountability or doesnt care enough about maintaining the relationship I guess to do anything to make it work. I suppose I could explain all this to him when he asks if I am upset with him because I am not replying so quickly, but I am nervous about making things weird between us on the project. My first true love affair and I got completely ripped off or short changed. I was very prioritized in his life before but now he does not want to place me as high on his priority list anymore. And then the other half of me cant help but feel like perhaps he just doesnt want to go on a date with me at all and thats why he never made an effort. He dresses professionally. This makes me Am I the problem here? I used to think eventually wed work through the kinks and finally stop arguing. These are no games. i know i should understand his busy schedule. I am learning. it took me years before I finally moved on. I tried to talk to him about it multiple times, every time he would apologize and say he would be better, but he always fell back in the same routine. But Ive just always felt like im not one of his priorities. For a while there I was wondering if he was a narcissist, player or just using me. i just dump my 2mnths loveless relationship before it gets deeper. it makes me feel like hes okay with giving me the minimum because he knows i will accept it. I would break up and then we would make up. And i blamed him roudly.. And he promised me that his intention was nit to cheat me and said sorry. Hed say something really mean, watch my cry and if I asked to talk about it, Hed tell me why do we have to always talk about it or why cant you just drop it and not bring it up my favorite was Im not apologizing because Im not sorry, you just like making a big deal over nothing one time I asked about marriage (he took me to the red wood Forrest and asked me to marry him 2 years prior to this comment) he told me hed never marry a b**ch. Ive been with my mate for 8 years prior to dating we were band mates .I knew him to be extremely introverted and not the happy go lucky type but I honestly had no idea it would be like pulling a tooth without novocaine to get any emotional response, support or growth,out of him!I feel stunted and see my life ever changing and evolving yet his ,the same .He has taken on many of my attributes oddly ,yet I feel, Ive gained nothing in return. He tells me he is going to bed and we will talk about tomorrow. I met his mom for the first time when his parents stopped by, we took his dog paddle boarding. I made it to the driveway before I felt so uncomfortable I ran inside to put on jeans and a tee shirt. He has some property on the other side of town, he asked me to move in with him to establish a foundation. I love him dearly, but no lie Im confused & I dont like feeling confused. We met and it was pretty much an instant connection. I do still love him, and have a lot of nice moments with him, and great memories. 6 Ways to Revive Your Relationship. I wasnt allowed to talk to my bf but i did anyways like every night but i couldnt talk on zoom or ppl would hear me. I feel like my house is just a hotel and he pays his family for meals but doesnt give me a dime. He barely calls me back when he sees my miss calls,i talked to him about it,he told me he is just stressed up with work.. Now he tries to call me at night or text me before he sleeps,he returns my calls,but things are not like before.. I was in an abusive relationship before so its scary having to trust someone and their intentions. However his texts are friendly, never intimate or flirty. I feel that I am confused and disappointed. There could be many reasons why your partner is not showing you the affection you desire, and according to therapist, dating and relationship coach and former matchmaker I would have send him through money to pay for the tea, its annoying tho that I know he went out that night and bought all his workmates drinks. We dont even hug or kiss anymore because people have always yelled PDA! (Stupid high schoolers) so now he wont do any of it. I hope things get better. He used to call me at night before he sleeps,now he doesnt anymore,he takes days to reply my whatsapp messages. I dont know what to do. They are both in their 40s and are so happy to find each other. A week after that, I was at a summer camp and me and him were on ft. But things went roughed to both of us.. If you really love him and see potential in the relationship then give it a try. Tonight was my last straw.. I told him I loved him and the only reason why I would ever leave him is if he cheated on me. I want to give myself time to breath but when I do, again I feel lazy and like Im doing nothing with my life. He cheated on me and the worst part is that he left like me a cigarette butt. I HAVE COMPLAINED ABOUT IT IN THE PAST, AND HE JUST SAYS THIS IS WHAT IT IS. Hello Crystal, I am very interested in what you have said, do you mind to give more details please? You need to rest your hopes, dreams and future on a love that never fails, a river that never runs dry. The main problem in our relationship is one: I go out of my way for him all the time and apparently that is ok. This is exactly me, I always feel stupid for caring more, its like the bane of my existence. Its a painful truth. hes sick and theres no cure. I decided to pull back and just sit and watch. I am insecure and scared because all my past relationships,Ive been either cheated on or dumped. InWhen He Doesnt Make Time for You: How to Create More Love in Your Relationship, Byron Katie shows a man how to build a better relationship by questioning thoughts such as I want him to spend more time with me.. We may have jumped into it a little fast but we knew each other so well and things were going great. You, me, and probably thousands of other girls are in the same boat right now with the Coronavirus. Not only that sexual favors have been one sided for a long time now. Honestly he may need some space. Does not show any effort at all, but claims to love me so much. And boom..you would be able to leave him to be single and be open for someone whod treat you just the way you deserve. We live in one of the coolest states in the world, Orlando Fl. Also said he is feeling low and has issues with his father (this something he always tell me tbh)He hasnt called me yet tho he promised he would. maybe its because im his first gf and he doesnt know exactly how to treat one, but it still makes me sad to think that he might not love me that much. You can let go slowly at first and just start seeing other people. He is struggling to find work as well. Yesterday he said he had tried to write in his journal in the morning but it was took dark and did not want to wake me. I waited though and suffered through almost being forced to move across the country when after he graduated and wanted a new job but couldnt find one- that was the only opportunity he had and was about to force me to uproot MY life, quit school, to go. ! And then what we talked about was not set in stone and that things change. But I clearly have seen enough examples of the ones who simply stops caring when they are sure that we will be theirs and we will always care about them no matter what. The first two years of the relationship he was wonderful. Of course you want him to make an effort to wine and dine you; his time, effort, and energy shows he cares about you. Ill leave him alone. My birthday weekend was really rough. It confuses us because we know the love ie there. One would think he would have learned his lesson and did something special this year. But i couldnt regain my trust for him again. Hes a good guy but I dont know why he stopped trying. He was all amazing.. first few months showered me with flowers and gifts then slowly I started to see his true colours. The man is now in jail. He just argues about small and insignificant things such as a goodnight call or text. No matter how much you wish your boyfriend was making more of an effort in your relationship, you have to remember that theres nothing you can do to change him. He has recently been stressed about getting into grad school and got denied for his first two school. Its more to the story but I just want to vent that.. hey girl wake up,do you want to spend the rest of your life living like that? But since last year, he stopped doing that. We have an 18 year age gap. Love your reply and I agree with it all Im struggling right now as Im conflicted with wht to do how long do you wait how long do you keep understanding he has issues he is dealing with but makes minimal effort with our relationship.. Im just sad angry and confused. He betrayed his best friend, he betrayed the woman that has been loving him. He has no end of time for himself. Recently, and at a time where my mental state has been absolute crap and I really needed some comfort, we didnt see each other for about a month and a half. The thing is there seemed to be no problem in our relationship, i love him and i feel like its mutual but about two weeks ago he began to claim that i was cheating on him (which Im not) and well ik its happened to him before. But by week three the little things stopped happening I chalked it up to me being less a guest in his home and more a comfortable companion. And then when they do not respect those boundaries, I have a decision to make. He tells me that he loves me very much and I know he does. I start to think that maybe he is cheap and he doesnt want to spend money having a meal in a nice restaurant because we didnt go out for a proper dinning experience. No calling. Next day he texted me telling me I looked cute etc. Its really hurtful to live with, and it really makes me feel unappreciated and un loved. Where Im at in my life, after 5 years, if Im not a fianc, Im gone. Go out more often, meet new people, make friends, get involved with charity organisations or simply start a class for something you always wanted to do; try a new hairstyle, go shopping, take yourself on dates, go to a beach or a lake and enjoy the sunset (yes alone! I hate to say it maybe he did something he wasnt so suppose to and felt guilty leading him to end things. Hes now working at a new job since Jan and its great! We cuddled and played video games until 5 am and they took me home. Its less taxing on my emotional self to stay lonely. Please take some money you get from promotion and go to Counseling to help you. You are independent. I feel sad when I see these things and feel left unheard and unseen by my so-called partner. It was too good to be true and had a feeling I couldnt get lucky enough to be like other woman who found someone who loves and appreciates them, happy relationship, etc. Now, I dont know all the details of this, but I would say that hes pushing you away unintentionally while trying to cope with the loss of his father. That is an abusive, toxic relationship and you deserve so much better! It doesnt matter what words youre saying, the message is clear: I will tolerate this, as long as you let me explain repeatedly why I dont agree with it. The most important lesson Ive learned from my love life is this: My role is to set boundaries. It's also could be a sign your partner is unwilling to prioritize your relationship, communication has eroded, or you're no longer top-of-mind. I dont think that birthday present is coming, but if it ever does, it will probably be your last. I decided I deserve to be treated with love and respect. Yet around the holidays, he has completely dropped off the radar and is barely giving me more than a one word text response back. If you ever need a friend dont hesitate to reach out. He hates my mom which is part of that reason. Its hard to deal with, but Im trying to just tolerate it until the coronavirus is over, in hopes that things will go back to normal. I am the first gf my bf ever had and theres only so much I can pin on that reason. Do I move the goal post so he can succeed? My friends have been pulling their hair out trying to get him to help them plan my party and he ignores their texts. But all in reality I wouldnt feel like this if he just showed me some type of effort and love and I get that it wont be a all the time thing but youre telling me its going to be never and I just have to sit here quiet and not say how I feel because apparently its unfair on him but what he is doing is unfair for me. But have to understand yourself mentality first because if not you will lose yourself in the process. Hes now begging for me back , saying hes going to change. Life is to short to live on a roller coaster. But, he still seems emotionally unavailable in that he doesnt know how to express his feelings for me, or reassure me. Let him see how much you value the relationship, remind him of how much you have built together and feed on what you both can achieve without hindrance. He has said that he would maybe consider living together in five years. I really i am lost and dont know what to do, love only gets old if he allows it, I have been trying to do sweet things for him aswell by making him a nice meal and texting him good morning and just checking up on him but I guess he seems rather bored. Let me know your thoughts! Get emotionally and spiritually healthy. Adeli, I was in a long distance relationship for 1 year, so I understand. I miss him terribly. because of this i have been resentful and he became more distant as a result of that. I know for sure that he likes me as well. I feel like it would be easier being single which I dont want cuz hes a great guy other wise. In the beginning, they go overboard to make us happy. So if it really werent for zoey (our dog) I wouldnt have gone on that second date with him (because I just cant say no to seeing puppies). Im just a girl whos watched a fair amount of psychology videos, but I hope that this advice helps you!! But I feel like its a symptom of that reoccuring issue of ours where he just doesnt put effort in to connect. Stop working for him. I stayed in that relationship. fyi, he was at a party yesterday until 6am. Ive even used different approaches, including positive reinforcement. Always come lastAnd itsbreaking My heartthat I dont know what to do Financially Im not able to move And my son doesnt want to Any advice? im still giving him a 100 up till today. I am an emotional person and I tend to cry. Im not sure how to approach any of this with him. We recently broke up with him due to the fact that, despite my efforts to express how I didnt feel like a priority, and him apologizing, him not making an effort to see me during the week (Works been crazy) and saying he would call me at night, but not, he did not change and I gave it 2 1/2 weeks. He tries to make me think Im crazy when I talk him about it. Oh my God this is so me. ANGRY ALL THE TIME. He told me he loved me within weeks of us meeting. When I do, its the absolute bare minimum or just a bunch of excuses. I dont know what else to say about any of it, but I do know that Im getting more depressed by the day. His complaint is that no matter what he does is never enough and that I dont contribution anything. The middle of this relationship scale is a 5: youve been dating for a year or more, and you know each other fairly well. I dont feel like I really know him at all. And I dont know whether its that hes worried about his mother as she has totally stopped him from going outside and she stopped him from seeing me before the lockdown was announced. Please tell me whatbi should do. The Best Way To Get His Attention Is To Stop Giving Him Yours By Ossiana Tepfenhart Written on Jun 16, 2020 Photo: getty One of my exes was notorious for his What should I do? Somehow I always felt that he did it because of something I did. It just makes me feel so not good enough for him. I would go on my off days when I wasnt in collehe classes or work. and guess what? Im always the one asking him to do something, Im always planning my work schedules around his and swapping shifts etc I just feel like its so one sided sometimes. He forgave me and I eventually moved back. I came across a guy who seemed familiar but had a different name. We lived together in my apartment for about a year & a half. We still work on a project together so its not like I can just cut contact entirely, which I figured might be the reason why he is continuing to text, like he doesnt want things to get uncomfortable between us. I get Fridays and the weekend which I use to do an my studying, school work, exercise, self care, etc. Im really worried because from October were doing it long distance and Im dreading that if Im not the one to go see him, were not gonna see each other for half a year. he would nvr go out of his way to do anything for me now and it makes me wonder why because what am i lacking? We look for people to fill our emptiness and when they arent meeting the standards we become emotionally unstable. One thing that has been helping me is just leaving the room to give each other space. The first 5 he was boyfriend of the year. We continue dating but not once did he ever bring up talking about all that he mentioned. but thats what made me fall in love with him and now that i feel like the efforts arent made or not even made but not wanted, not driven, not desired as he felt before. Anniversaries, birthdays etc. I am actually tearing up as I type those words, he actually said that to me. I feel angry and resentful that going to school took him away from me while he was basically unavailable and busy. The lady was there, I was so angry, I wanted to punch her for lying tto me, but my guy was protecting her, he was even telling me to live his house, he humiliated me in front of her, he came last week to my place and tried explaining things, he even spent the night at my house, I feel so stupid, because he is not putting any effort to fix things between us, I feel so stupid for letting him spent the night in my house, why do I still love him even after he has clearly heart broken me, will I ever move from this nightmare? He texts me that his out with his friends and hes drunk. About 3 weeks after, right after a fight we had after my bday, he told him he cant find them. Theres always a chance that this will trigger self-reflection, and he will crawl back, and you can decide whether to give a second chance. But I genuinely hope this would be of help (to you and to anyone whos going through a similar scenario). I love drinking with him and having a laugh but he doesnt seem to feel the same. hi so ive been with my bf for 4 years and at first ofc it was all great but after 2 years he jst stopped putting in effort and when i ask him to, he makes it seems like its such a chore. hes always busy at work. That will show me he doesnt plan on committing for the long haul. I love him but Im not fully happy with all this lazy effort ?. Date. Dont let your wishes control your thoughts and feelings. I dont know what to do. The point is if a man cares enough about his future wife and son would he want them to be safe and help them move to become a family.. Kiki, I do not like what you said about being the one who travels back and forth. If your S.O. I know how hard it is to let go, but I think you have to. I had to call him! Needless to say, I do not want to get married, to see if that will make a difference. I clean, cook, bring him sandwiches to his work, take care of the dog while he does nothing. I mentioned it many times, cant wait to get home and eat what youve made & have dinner with you! Hopefully, these reasons will let you know the answer if you are wondering why did he stop talking to me. He is using you for everything you got. It can certainly take a negative toll on your relationship (and your self-esteem) if you constantly have to repeat yourself, you cant help but feel your S.O. My youngest is a 1 month and when she was about two weeks old he met this girl on a bar while hanging out with his best friend and got her number. But I always gave him the benefit of the doubt. Help me please I have no idea what to do. Like thank you for ruining an otherwise nice day/evening because I did not answer you the correct way when you asked if I refilled the ice tray. Btw he put his board in a form of a heart on his wall for me . Hes him. I cant tell you what to do, I can tell you what it feels like to stay and feel the harshness of hurtful words for years at a time. I think him doing that even though you have said you arent okay with it is extremely disrespectful and shows he doesnt care about your feelings. i just wish he would be more emotionally available. 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